Why do smart men and women settle for the wrong person?

One of the great temptations that exists among single people is to settle for a relationship that is not best for them and does not glorify God. I have been in pastoral ministry for approximately 20 years and I can guarantee you that these relational compromises take place all the time.

On top of that I have three kids and one of my great desires is to see them marry someone who loves God with all of their heart. So this topic of finding the right person to marry is very important to me.

With that said, I want to strongly recommend to you that you buy and read “She’s Got The Wrong Guy: Why Smart Women Settle” by Deepak Reju. Yes, the book is about how and why women make bad relational decisions (and how to avoid it) but this would be a great book for everyone to read. Singles should read it. Teens. Moms and dads. Male and female. This book is excellent and will give you a lot to think about when it comes to what to look for when it comes to dating and marriage.

The author, Deepak Reju, is a pastor of biblical counseling and families at Capitol Baptist Church in Washington D.C. His writing is absolutely filled with with biblical wisdom and not merely his own opinion.

Part 1 will begin to answer the question, why do smart women settle, and how to live by faith in all of your relationships.

In Part 2 Deepak begins to describe some of the kinds of people that could potentially lead to a bad marriage:

-The control freak

-The promiscuous guy

-The unchurched guy

-The new convert

-The unbeliever

-The angry man

-The lone ranger

-The commitment-phobic man

-The passive man (danger!)

-The unteachable guy

In Part 3 you will find topics like, breaking up for the glory of God, in pursuit of a real Christian man, why waiting is okay, grace for today.

As I have already said, I strongly recommend this book. I believe it could potentially save you, or someone you care about, a lot of heart ache.


  1. Donna says:

    I have a grandaughter who went through a divorce over 5 years ago and needs this book!!!!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. You should buy it for her!


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